Family estrangement is larger than conflict and more complicated than betrayal. It is entwined in contradictory beliefs, values, behaviours and goals and is the result of at least one member of the family considering reconciliation impossible and/or undesirable. The cessation of familial relations, whether that involves rejection or deciding to leave, can be an inordinately traumatising experience. Whilst data suggests that around 1 in 12 people are estranged from at least one family member this topic is rarely discussed or researched. Based on the author’s in-depth research and exploration of the topic of estrangement, Family Estrangement: A Matter of Perspective captures the unique lived experiences of both estrangee and estranger. Offering multiple perspectives drawn from academic and popular literature as well as case studies, the book contextualises its chapters within current theoretical understandings of family relationships and estrangement, including Loss and Grief theories, Attachment Theory and Bowen Family Systems Theory. Practice sections provide estranged readers and professionals with a structured approach to exploring the various aspects of estrangement within a family and to help them identify resilience, strengths and strategies which individuals may harness as they attempt to live with estrangement. Written with the aim to provide guidance in understanding estrangement in context, this book is suitable for estranged family members and all professionals who encounter and work with people affected by estrangement, including social workers, counsellors, psychologists, allied health professionals, doctors, nurses and legal professions.
This scholarly and personal exploration of what it is like to grow up feeling unloved describes personality types and syndromes that often manifest, regardless of whether the family unit was "dysfunctional" or not. • In-depth examinations of seven personality types and syndromes that manifest in the loveless family • Bibliographic reference sources • A subject index
Preston Browning Jr. entered the world in 1929, a few months before the Crash and the onset of the Great Depression. In Culpeper, Virginia, Browning grew up amid the pervasive poverty of the times where he recalls being labeled by his father as the world’s worst grouch, led in song by Miss Lizzy Lovell—who banged on the piano at the local Episcopal church, and seated astride a cow who needed a lot of convincing to take him for a ride around the pasture beyond his house. With humor and exceptional detail, Browning shares a lively memoir that focuses on his coming-of-age journey and subsequent experiences in the rural South during the 1930s and 1940s, providing a compelling glimpse into how his family and others helped shape his emerging sense of self, his convictions, and his character. While providing snippets about the era and sketches of more than twenty relatives and ancestors that include an amusing retelling about his Uncle Sweets’ experiences at a hoochie-coochie show, Browning details the fascinating legacy of his Southern upbringing during a time when a struggle for racial, economic, and social justice prevailed in America. In this inspiring memoir, a Southerner reminisces about small-town Virginia before, during, and after the Great Depression through entertaining stories about his unconventional ancestors, his immediate family, and his own experiences.
A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children. Labeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. As a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. Rules of Estrangement gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible. While estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.
Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders shows you a unique integration of neuropsychology and family therapy. Authors Judith L. Johnson and William G. McCown span these two broad areas by synthesizing family therapy principles and applying them specifically to traumatic brain injury and degenerative dementia. Family therapists, neuropsychologists, social workers, and counselors working with patients who experience brain dysfunction and their families learn to better address common issues and problems and of therapeutic interventions. This expert book includes case examples and working models of family reactions. The book then extends this information into practical clinical situations commonly confronted in work with these patients and their families. Readers of Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders are introduced to brain-behavior relationships including neuroanatomy of the brain as it relates to behavior, dynamics of neurologic disorders, and common symptoms of brain dysfunction. You can then use this information to help persons with traumatic brain injury and their families cope with and adjust to the issues and challenges they face. Specifically, you gain invaluable, informative insight into: the neuroanatomy of the brain and which structures mediate behavior, emotion, and cognition common issues families face when a member suffers traumatic brain injury therapeutic strategies and practical suggestions for assisting families mild head injury and familial reactions common issues faced by families confronting Alzheimer’s disease or other dementias a model of family reactions to dementia over time Chapters in Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders outline symptoms of brain dysfunction and family therapy designed to approach these symptoms. Divided into two sections, the book gives readers a model of traumatic brain injury beginning with the initial onset and proceeding through time. This section focuses on changes within the family and therapeutic strategies for helping these distressed families. Secondly, the authors address degenerative dementia with emphases on certain phases through which family members may progress as they acknowledge their loved one’s condition and then therapeutically work through the reality of it. Professionals in the medical and social sciences will find Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders a unique and irreplacable guide for developing and understanding the meshing of neuropsychology and family therapy. Also, the book serves as a solid text for students in courses such as rehabilitation, counseling, and family therapy. Translated into Spanish!
Ten steps to surviving a family rift, finding peace, and moving on A family rift is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can face. It can have a profound effect on virtually every aspect of life, causing depression, relationship problems, and even physical illness. Healing From Family Rifts offers hope to those coping with a split in their families. Family therapist Mark Sichel addresses the pain and shame connected with family rifts and offers a way through the crisis and on toward healing and fulfillment. Uniquely, Sichel does not assume that every rift will or even should be mended. Instead, he offers ways to recover from any outcome, including: A 10-step process to come to terms with the family dynamics that led to the split Methods to find peace and personal reconciliation Skills that help to build a second family of people whose values are in line with one's own Techniques to fight feelings of guilt when faced with a family rift Includes inspiring and instructive stories drawn from the author's patients that help readers put their own situations in perspective.
Written for the general public as well as for specialists, this volume details some of the numerous dimensions of the homelessness issue: the rise in poverty; the decline of low-income housing: problems in counting the homeless; the role of familial estrangement; mental illness; substance abuse; and health status and behaviors. The authors conclude with discussions of rural versus urban homelessness, street children in Latin America, and homelessness in postindustrial societies.
The purpose of the book Fragmented Families is to clarify the phenomenon of estrangement between family members. The book focuses on the meanings and process of alienation, its outcomes and possible paths toward resolution. The reader is encouraged to recognize that estrangement, with all its frustration and pain, may offer new opportunities for self-understanding. The task of exploring one's family, examining its fragmented parts and clarifying one's own role as a family member is a crucial step in personal development, whether or not the effort leads to reconciliation. Fragmented Families is intended for a general readership. It will also be a relevant resource for psychologists, physicians, lawyers, social workers and clergy.
How do cultural changes such as the increasing lustful possibilities of our liquid modernity affect ‘romantic’ values as psychotherapists and counsellors - and, in turn, affect how they work through their clients’ relationships? Do they embody values from a previous era that are inappropriate for the era we are in now, which some term ‘post-romantic’? For example, do they really privilege monogamous relationships? There again, do those psychotherapists who advocate polygamy really want others to legitimize their own desire to have affairs? How wary should one be of accepting such prevailing theories as Freud’s nuclear family romance and his ‘ordinary unhappiness’? Is anyone value-free regarding romanticism/post-romanticism and should they be? Is ‘to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part’ still an ideal worth working towards or more an ideological imprisonment? This book seeks to explore recent research on how notions of romanticism and post-romanticism affect therapeutic practices. Love, Sex and Psychotherapy in a Post-Romantic Era is a significant new contribution to psychotherapy, and will be a great resource for prospective and current clients, trainee and professional therapists, academics, researchers, and advanced students of Psychology, Psychotherapy, Philosophy and Human Behaviour. This book was originally published as a special issue of the European Journal of Psychotherapy & Counselling.
Real solutions to a hidden epidemic: family estrangement. Estrangement from a family member is one of the most painful life experiences. It is devastating not only to the individuals directly involved--collateral damage can extend upward, downward, and across generations, More than 65 million Americans suffer such rifts, yet little guidance exists on how to cope with and overcome them. In this book, Karl Pillemer combines the advice of people who have successfully reconciled with powerful insights from social science research. The result is a unique guide to mending fractured families. Fault Lines shares for the first time findings from Dr. Pillemer's ten-year groundbreaking Cornell Reconciliation Project, based on the first national survey on estrangement; rich, in-depth interviews with hundreds of people who have experienced it; and insights from leading family researchers and therapists. He assures people who are estranged, and those who care about them, that they are not alone and that fissures can be bridged. Through the wisdom of people who have "been there," Fault Lines shows how healing is possible through clear steps that people can use right away in their own families. It addresses such questions as: How do rifts begin? What makes estrangement so painful? Why is it so often triggered by a single event? Are you ready to reconcile? How can you overcome past hurts to build a new future with a relative? Tackling a subject that is achingly familiar to almost everyone, especially in an era when powerful outside forces such as technology and mobility are lessening family cohesion, Dr. Pillemer combines dramatic stories, science-based guidance, and practical repair tools to help people find the path to reconciliation.
This is the first text of its kind to deal exclusively with applied social work ethics. It focuses on an eclectic mix of difficult moral questions or issues encountered in much modern day practice. It is therefore not theoretically driven with some practical elements attached, but is instead is a practice-based book, where any theory introduced is linked to tangible practice situations. It is also thought-provoking, controversial in parts and always engaging. With a focussed and clear writing style, this book will be of interest to all social work students and practitioners interested in the practical yet complex moral ramifications of their applied role.
In Estranged: Finding Hope When Your Family Falls Apart, Julie Plagens shares about her life as a child of well-known parents in full-time ministry and the hardships it puts on families to maintain an image of perfection. After many years of anger and unforgiveness, Julie and her husband walked away from the family to find healing after a life-altering health diagnosis. This is the amazing story of how God knitted a Christian family back together through a series of miracles that can only be explained by divine intervention after seven years of estrangement. This book is written for families who are struggling to get along in a healthy manner all the way to those who are experiencing a full-blown family estrangement. Julie gives her story from the perspective of an estranged adult child but also gives tips for parents and adult children who are struggling to find a connection between the two generations. Julie's mother, Joanne Ventura, wrote the afterword to help parents who are struggling with the rejection of their adult children. Estranged is unique in that it not only gives personal stories from both sides of the estrangement (which is rare), but it also gives tips to help families move towards hope and healing, even if there is never reconciliation. This is a must read for anyone dealing with shame, anger, rejection, and unforgiveness. You can find hope when your family falls apart.
Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders shows you a unique integration of neuropsychology and family therapy. Authors Judith L. Johnson and William G. McCown span these two broad areas by synthesizing family therapy principles and applying them specifically to traumatic brain injury and degenerative dementia. Family therapists, neuropsychologists, social workers, and counselors working with patients who experience brain dysfunction and their families learn to better address common issues and problems and of therapeutic interventions. This expert book includes case examples and working models of family reactions. The book then extends this information into practical clinical situations commonly confronted in work with these patients and their families. Readers of Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders are introduced to brain-behavior relationships including neuroanatomy of the brain as it relates to behavior, dynamics of neurologic disorders, and common symptoms of brain dysfunction. You can then use this information to help persons with traumatic brain injury and their families cope with and adjust to the issues and challenges they face. Specifically, you gain invaluable, informative insight into: the neuroanatomy of the brain and which structures mediate behavior, emotion, and cognition common issues families face when a member suffers traumatic brain injury therapeutic strategies and practical suggestions for assisting families mild head injury and familial reactions common issues faced by families confronting Alzheimer's disease or other dementias a model of family reactions to dementia over time Chapters in Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders outline symptoms of brain dysfunction and family therapy designed to approach these symptoms. Divided into two sections, the book gives readers a model of traumatic brain injury beginning with the initial onset and proceeding through time. This section focuses on changes within the family and therapeutic strategies for helping these distressed families. Secondly, the authors address degenerative dementia with emphases on certain phases through which family members may progress as they acknowledge their loved one's condition and then therapeutically work through the reality of it. Professionals in the medical and social sciences will find Family Therapy of Neurobehavioral Disorders a unique and irreplacable guide for developing and understanding the meshing of neuropsychology and family therapy. Also, the book serves as a solid text for students in courses such as rehabilitation, counseling, and family therapy. Translated into Spanish!
Jessica Berger Gross’s “gripping memoir about growing up in—and growing out of—a deeply dysfunctional, abusive family” (Glamour.com) redefines our understanding of estrangement and celebrates the ability to triumph over adversity. To outsiders, Jessica Berger Gross’s childhood—growing up in a “nice” Jewish family in middle class Long Island—seemed as wholesomely American as any other. But behind closed doors, Jessica suffered years of physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her father, whose mood would veer unexpectedly from loving to violent. At the age of twenty-eight, still reeling from the trauma but emotionally dependent on her dysfunctional family, Jessica made the anguished decision to cut ties with them entirely. Years later, living in Maine with a loving husband and young son, having finally found happiness, Jessica is convinced the decision saved her life. In her “unsentimentally courageous memoir” (Kirkus Reviews), one of Elle’s “Best Books of the Summer,” Jessica breaks through common social taboos and bravely recounts the painful, self-defeating ways in which she internalized her abusive childhood, how she came to the monumental decision to distance herself from her family, and how she endured the difficult road that followed. Ultimately, by removing herself from the damaging patterns and relationships of the past, Jessica has managed to carve an inspiring path to happiness—one she has created on her own terms. Her story, told here in a careful, unflinching, and forthright way, completely reframes how we think about family and the past. Estranged is “a memoir of love, abuse, despair, and hope…a reminder that any family can hide a secret and that many victims of abuse go their entire lives without speaking out about it” (Booklist).
From ancient times, China's remote and exotic South—a shifting and expanding region beyond the Yangtze River—has been an enduring theme in Chinese literature. For poets and scholar-officials in medieval China, the South was a barbaric frontier region of alienation and disease. But it was also a place of richness and fascination, and for some a site of cultural triumph over exile. The eight essays in this collection explore how tensions between pride in southern culture and anxiety over the alien qualities of the southern frontier were behind many of the distinctive features of medieval Chinese literature. They examine how prominent writers from this period depicted themselves and the South in poetic form through attitudes that included patriotic attachment and bitter exile. By the Tang dynasty, poetic symbols and clichés about the exotic South had become well established, though many writers were still able to use these in innovative ways. Southern Identity and Southern Estrangement in Medieval Chinese Poetry is the first work in English to examine the cultural south in classical Chinese poetry. The book incorporates original research on key poets, such as Lu Ji, Jiang Yan, Wang Bo, and Li Bai. It also offers a broad survey of cultural and historical trends during the medieval period, as depicted in poetry. The book will be of interest to students of Chinese literature and cultural history. Ping Wang is assistant professor of Chinese at University of Washington, Seattle. Nicholas Morrow Williams is research assistant professor at the Mr. Simon Suen and Mrs. Mary Suen Sino-Humanitas Institute, Hong Kong Baptist University. "A long-overdue appreciation of the South as a center for the production of medieval Chinese literature as well as a focal point of Chinese cultural and intellectual reflection and identity, this collection of essays by a stellar roster of leading scholars offers an immensely rich contribution to the study of classical Chinese poetry." — Martin Kern, Greg (’84) and Joanna (P13) Zeluck Professor in Asian Studies, Princeton University "This book presents a systematic study of how the symbol of the 'southland' was reinvented in medieval Chinese literature, taking readers on a cultural and geographic journey to survey the continuous rewriting of the South and its identity." — Yu Yu Cheng, Distinguished Professor of Chinese Literature, National Taiwan University
Family Estrangement is often kept hidden until the consequences and pain spill into Grief and Loss. This is especially true for Parents when their Adult Children estrange from them. Many Parents are confused, blame themselves and most suffer in silence. Many Parents have family members who enable the Adult Child thus encouraging the estrangement.Some Parents haven't seen or talked to their Adult Children in years, some are on a roller coaster of intermittent contact and some have Grandchildren they have never met. In some ways our society encourages estrangement in media, through enabling and misinformation, which leaves Parents alone and afraid, especially the aging parents. "Recovery Room: Surviving Family Estrangement", describes the issues of estrangement, the types, some behaviors and consequences as well as the family Grief. This Book is a guide for Parents to move through their Grief and Loss with suggested steps for healing and forgiveness. It will encourage Parents to take their own lives back and move forward, in love.